Online Dating tips (gay, straight, prude or slut)

20
Nov
2007

I was going to call this post “Gay internet dating etiquette” or “hook-up site etiquette”,  but I realized these rules were probably more universal than that. These rules should work the same whether you are straight or gay, enjoy long walks on the sand or just want a quick roll in the hay. (Hey, that rhymed!)

In no particular order:

1. If someone compliments you, always respond with a thank you. It doesn’t matter if you are interested in them or not, this is common courtesy.

2. You do not have to respond to someone with no pictures in their profile (except in the case above, and then only to say thanks).

3. When someone insults you, they should simply be ignored and/or blocked. There is no reason to engage them.

4. Never go directly to someone’s home or allow them to come to yours. First meetings should be out in public (at a coffee shop or the like if possible).

5. If you should come across a profile of someone who is using your pictures instead of their own, compliment them on their good looks. Then report them to the site owner.

6. Never trash talk any member of a site to any other member (with the possible exception of the above member who stole your pics).

7. If someone does not respond to a message you have sent to them, drop it. Do not send endless followup messages asking why they aren’t interested. This reeks of desperation and the other party should be expected to apply rule number 3. You should apply the same rule in the reverse situation.

8. If, upon meeting someone, you discover that:

a. Their pics are at least 10 years old, OR
b. Their pics are not at all identifiable as them, OR
c. They have lied or misled you about important details (up to you to decide which these are, but being married might be one)

you should feel free to end it right there with a polite “This won’t work for me, but thanks for playing. Good bye.”

Comments

  1. Mo says:

    I probably fall into the “straight prude” category, however, here are a few of my own:

    1. Always meet sooner rather than later. There is NOTHING worse than establishing some online/email “relationship” only to find out the person has lied about their age/appearance/grooming habits and you have zero attraction to them.

    2. Be very leery of people who write to you in “text speak” or write as if they are naming a Prince song (i.e., “I will Die 4 U”). To me, this shows that they are unable to string a REAL sentence together and will most likely be a chimp.

    3. Be very cognizant of “red flags” on your first meeting such as, “I hate my mother” or “Yeah, that sucks, kinda like the time my ex-girlfriend got the restraining order…”

  2. closetalk says:

    hmmmm – On
    1. I agree. say “thanks” and then if he’s UGLY, click ignore. :)

    2. no pic, no response. seriously. dats part of the fun on internet.

    3. LOSAH!!!

    4. o, a coffee shop is de BEST first date. dinner or lunch has wayyy too much pressure! lol.

    5. BIG-TIME LOSAH!

    6. better yet, dont even read the main chatroom – useless banter.

    7. type in 2 comments. dats it. NO MORE.

    8. … unless ure REAL horny. hehehe.

  3. Is this what you used to hook up on your travels in South Asia?